Ex Marks the Spot

For a minute, can you just delete all those bad memories, the endless fights and the misunderstandings you had with your friends or exes and just think about all the beautiful time you guys had together ?

Think back to those evenings of fancy dinner dates where candlelight danced upon the table and every glance exchanged spoke volumes of affection, each bite, you shared was not just a taste of culinary delight, but communication of hearts, strengthening the bond between two souls interwined.

Recall the exchanges of gifts, each carefully chosen to convey the depth of your love, whether grand or modest these tokens of affection served as tangible reminders of intangible feeling you held for one another. That one tranquil night, you spent on his terrace, watching the moon and the stars loving and holding each other. Just the way you did, or maybe little less.

Wasn’t it all dreamy yet real?

So, Why is that whenever we are asked about our past, we always tend to start the conversation with those antagonistic and conflicting words?

Just think about the reason behind that one ’big yes’

What if some random person is coming to me and asking me my opinion about the same old person, my take should be neutral right ? I should definitely speak all the good things I know, I understand one should be frank, bold and honest enough to spit the truth out so even if I want to warn about anything I should speak it out in a very subtle and poite manner. We had some indifference, so it didn’t work out for both of us, but that doesn’t make them a bad person just because they are no more part of your life. Be it any relationship, your friend, your father, your mother, your boyfriend, your unfortunate experience can’t define that person.

Our personal experiences can shape our perceptions, but it’s important to recognise one’s experiences with an individual may not encompass the entirely of their personality. People are complex and their actions in specific situations may not fully reflect who they are as a whole.

So rather than dwelling on the negatives or casting blame with delve into embracing the positive qualities of our exes / friends can lead to personal growth and empowerment. We can navigate the journey of self discovery, forgiveness, resilience and uncover the way of healthier connections and a bright future.

-Dr. Uma Marda