Emotional Intelligence: A Rare Yet Powerful Gift

For me, a few years back, emotional intelligence was just a word. I didn’t fully understand what it meant to be emotionally intelligent. But then, my life experiences taught me how important it is to be emotionally intelligent in today’s world.

I always used to wonder what my strength was. And then I realized—it’s emotional intelligence. Over time, I’ve come to understand that I can easily see and feel others’ points of view, and I’m someone who observes a lot. Let me start by telling you a story.

My Story

When I joined university, I was very immature. I didn’t know how to deal with people or handle situations. But as time passed, life experiences shaped me. University played a huge role in teaching me so many things, but one thing I’m most grateful for is that it made me realize I have this magical power called emotional intelligence.

What is Emotional Intelligence?

In simple terms, emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and manage your own emotions—and also to understand the emotions of others.

It’s not just about being emotional. It’s about responding wisely, not reacting quickly.

Some Facts About Emotional Intelligence

Very few people are naturally gifted with emotional intelligence.
We talk about IQ a lot, but EQ (Emotional Quotient) is just as important—if not more.
If you have five close friends, maybe only two of them are emotionally intelligent.
Emotional intelligence is often more powerful than raw intellect in relationships and decision-making.

How Does It Look Like To Be Emotionally Intelligent?

Here are a few signs that someone is emotionally intelligent:

They understand everyone’s situation deeply and empathetically.
They can literally put themselves into your shoes to understand your situation.
They are excellent decision-makers.
They think before they speak.
They’re genuine and sincere (not saying others aren’t, but this is something I’ve noticed).
They avoid hurting others intentionally.
They don’t fall for lies—sooner or later, they figure things out.
They love wholeheartedly and are very loyal.
They try their best to save every relationship, including friendships.
You can’t make a fool out of them easily.
They are solution-oriented listeners—you can pour your heart out, and they’ll understand.
They’re trustworthy and value loyalty deeply.

Pros of Being Emotionally Intelligent

You can manage conflicts wisely.
People feel safe opening up to you.
You can maintain strong and long-lasting relationships.
You read the room really well—body language, tone, emotions, everything.
You act as a healer in your friend group or around anyone who is close to you.
You bring calmness where there is chaos.

Cons of Being Emotionally Intelligent

You overthink—a lot.
You need reassurance, or your mind will start questioning why are they behaving like that.
You get hurt easily due to expectations.
You stay emotionally drained because you notice even the smallest changes in someone’s behavior.
You hold on to small things, even if they seem minor to others.
If you're someone who is sensitive, an overthinker and emotionally intelligent—that’s a tough combo to carry.
They will remember everything, even if it happened years ago.

Conclusion

This was just my perspective on emotional intelligence, based on personal experience. I’m not saying everything I mentioned is universally true, but I hope it gives you an idea of what it feels like to be emotionally intelligent.

In short, being emotionally intelligent is both a blessing and a challenge. But if you find someone in your life who matches these qualities—keep them close. These people are rare. They love deeply, care silently, and feel strongly. And most of all, they understand you in ways even you might not understand yourself.

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