The Secret Struggle of Technical Leaders: Three Mindset Shifts That No One Prepares You For

I was just a teenager when I first noticed it — the quiet struggle of people who were great at what they did.

My father was a mechanical engineer, a brilliant one. He had a gift for turning technical puzzles into elegant solutions. His expertise was his pride, and for years, it was enough. But as his career advanced, something changed.

I didn't fully understand it then, but I see it now. It's a shift I've seen in so many others: brilliant people who find themselves stepping away from the very thing they were great at. They're told it's a promotion, but it doesn't always feel like one.

Maybe you’ve felt it too. One day, you’re recognised for your skills. The next, you’re navigating people, emotions, and complex team dynamics. And suddenly, your confidence, once rooted in expertise, feels a little less certain.

I once thought it was just about mastering new skills—communication, coaching, emotional intelligence. But it turns out to be a lot more than that. It's about seeing yourself, your value, and the impact you create in a completely different way.

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Three Mindset Shifts That Changed How I See Everything

For those who take the leap—whether by choice or circumstance—one truth becomes clear: being great at something doesn’t mean you’ll be automatically great at leading others who do it.

But that’s not because you lack talent. It’s because the rules change. What made you an expert can even become a barrier as a leader.

Over time, I’ve seen this struggle enough to recognise a pattern. Beneath the confusion, three mindset shifts quietly decide whether someone thrives or simply survives.

1. From Personal Achievement to Collective Growth

My father took pride in his expertise. When I started my career, so did I. Being great at something felt good—solving problems, creating solutions, making an impact.

But there's a moment when that's not enough anymore. Not because your skills don't matter, but because your success isn’t just about what you achieve. It's about what others achieve because of your support.

And that can feel strange, unfamiliar, even impossible at times.

Because when you've built your confidence on being great at what you do, stepping back can feel like stepping away from who you are.

But what if it’s not about losing yourself? What if it’s about becoming someone who helps others find their best?

2. From Certainty and Control to Adaptability and Influence

I once believed the smartest person in the room was the one with all the answers. My father did too. It felt secure—knowing the right way, solving problems, always reliable.

But there comes a point when your answers aren't enough. Sometimes, they even get in the way.

Because guiding others isn't about having all the solutions—it's about creating a space where they can explore, struggle, and discover their own.

And that can feel risky. Exposing. If you're not in control, how do you ensure things go right?

But maybe the greatest impact isn't in the answers you give, but in the questions you ask.

3. From Transactional Interaction to Relational Connection

Early in my career, I thought communication meant clarity. Being clear, logical, and efficient.
But I’ve learned that clarity isn’t just about having the right facts.

It's not just about what you say—it's about how you make people feel.
It's listening without needing to fix. It's letting others share their thoughts without feeling judged.

But if you've always been valued for being clear and efficient, stepping into messy, emotional conversations can feel like losing control.

But what if the real risk is never letting them happen?

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Why This Matters More Than You Realise

This isn't just my struggle or yours. It's the world's next struggle.

As artificial intelligence automates tasks, technical knowledge will become common. But the human capabilities—the ability to help others grow, to create trust, to inspire a sense of purpose—will only become more valuable.

You're not just navigating your own transition. You're living a preview of what millions will face.

And that’s why this moment matters.

Because as you struggle, question, and redefine your value, you’re not just navigating a shift—you’re building a skill that organisations will urgently need as the world of work changes.

You’re learning to lead without all the answers. To guide without needing control. To create a space where others can find their own way.

And when the world catches up, you won’t just be someone who went through the struggle—you’ll be someone who can help others through it.

Not with perfect answers, but with presence.
Not by fixing every problem, but by holding the space for possibilities to emerge.

Because you’ve lived it.

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A Space to Practise What Really Matters

I didn't fully understand it then, but I do now. These mindset shifts aren't just insights—they're skills. And like any skill, you don't change just because you understand them. You change because you practise them.

If you’re navigating this shift, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure it out by yourself. That's why we built the Leadership Lab.

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You're not just picking up new skills, you're becoming someone who can help others thrive in complexity.

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