NZ Sex Toys for Every Fantasy: A Totally Adult Shopping Guide

And in a world that’s ever so slowly eroding the taboos around sex, there’s never been a better time to explore your sex drive. Single, coupled, or in between, sex toys can add a new level of oomph to your self-confidence and pleasure, as well as give you a close-up of your own sexual response.

More New Zealand adults than ever before are actively adopting sexual wellness as an integral part of health and happiness. But where to begin? So how do you select the perfect toy for you — or your fantasies?

That’s where this guide comes in.

We’ve created a complete, judgment-free, and Kiwi-friendly guide to help you explore sex toys for every fantasy, with the help of a trusted NZ retailer: Totally Adult

From discreet vibrators to pleasure-enhancing accessories, this article covers how to shop, what to look for, and how to use products safely and confidently.

Why Kiwis Are Choosing Totally Adult

Before we get into fantasies and toy types, it’s worth highlighting why so many New Zealanders shop at Totally Adult:

• Discreet packaging and delivery

• Locally owned and operated

• Wide selection of trusted, body-safe products

• Helpful guides, filters, and categories for beginners and experts alike

• Top-rated for privacy, reliability, and service

From first-timers to seasoned explorers, Totally Adult supports everyone on their journey with professionalism and zero judgment.

Understanding Fantasies and Sexual Exploration

Sexual fantasies are one of the most personal parts of our inner worlds — often very obvious, sometimes strange, and sometimes even unexpected. Despite how common they are, many people grow up thinking that having sexual fantasies is shameful, dangerous, or even immoral. In cultures where sexuality is tightly controlled or taboo, having such fantasies can even be seen as a personal failure (Aprili Media, 2025). However, the truth is that almost everyone has sexual fantasies. Fantasies are natural and healthy. They reflect curiosity, not shame. Some common fantasy types include:

• Sensory play (temperature, texture, touch)

• Dominance/submission dynamics

• Exhibitionism or voyeurism

• Roleplay and power play

• Anal exploration

• Intense stimulation or edging

• Romantic or sensual intimacy

Sex toys allow you to safely explore these themes alone or with a partner—while keeping control of your pace and comfort levels.

Totally Adult’s Toy Categories by Fantasy

Let’s break down the major categories of toys based on the fantasies they help bring to life. (Note: We won’t list specific products but instead focus on education and selection guidance.)

Fantasy: Deep Clitoral Stimulation

You crave powerful, focused pleasure.

Ideal Toy Types:

• Clitoral vibrators (bullet, wand, or pebble style)

• Air-pulse or suction stimulators

• Dual-action vibrators for simultaneous internal and external pleasure

What to Look For:

• Adjustable intensity levels

• Quiet operation

• Ergonomic design for comfort

Start your journey in the Top Sellers section for popular picks loved by Kiwi women.

Fantasy: G-Spot or Internal Exploration

You want to discover (or master) internal pleasure.

Ideal Toy Types:

• Curved vibrators

• G-spot dildos

• Thrusting toys or pulsators

What to Look For:

• A slight curve at the tip for direct G-spot access

• Firm yet flexible materials

• Comfortable size for your experience level

Fantasy: Roleplay, Power Play & Dominance

You’re drawn to the thrill of control, surrender, or surprise.

Ideal Toy Types:

• Restraints (cuffs, ropes, under-bed straps)

• Blindfolds and feather ticklers

• Paddles or impact tools

• Remote-controlled toys

What to Look For:

• Adjustable restraints made of soft materials

• Toys with safety releases or beginner-friendly features

• Clear signals between partners (use safe words!)

Tip: Communication and consent are everything in power-based fantasies.

Fantasy: Anal Play or Prostate Exploration

You’re curious about anal sensations or want to enhance solo/partnered play.

Ideal Toy Types:

• Butt plugs (beginner to advanced)

• Beads for progressive stimulation

• Prostate massagers with contoured tips

What to Look For:

• A flared base (absolutely essential for safety)

• Smooth silicone or glass

• Lubricants specifically made for anal play

Fantasy: Sensory & Temperature Play

You want to heighten sensitivity with creative sensations.

Ideal Toy Types:

• Glass or metal toys (they hold heat or cold)

• Massage candles or warming oils

• Ice-safe vibrators or lubes

What to Look For:

• Toys that are body-safe and temperature compatible

• Essential accessories like towels and lube

• Toys with smooth finishes for skin safety

Always test temperature against your wrist before applying to intimate areas.

Fantasy: Romantic, Slow, and Intimate Connection

You enjoy shared touch, deep connection, and sensual build-up.

Ideal Toy Types:

• Couples’ vibrators (can be worn during intercourse)

• Massage wands

• Remote-controlled toys for teasing

• Edging tools for prolonging pleasure

What to Look For:

• Quiet operation

• App or remote compatibility for partner use

• Flexible and body-contouring designs

This type of fantasy is about shared experience. Don’t rush it—playful connection is key.

Fantasy: Travel, Spontaneity, and Discretion

You want toys that are easy to carry and easy to hide.

Ideal Toy Types:

• Mini vibes or bullet stimulators

• Travel-sized lubricants

• Discreet strokers or sleeves

• Foldable restraints or accessories

What to Look For:

• Rechargeable or battery-operated

• Quiet motors

• TSA-friendly designs with lock or travel mode

Perfect for romantic weekends, business trips, or simply discretion at home.

How to Shop Smart (and Safe)

Buying a sex toy should be exciting—not stressful. Here’s how to ensure you get a great product that suits your needs:

Know What You Want to Feel

Ask yourself: Do I want something deep and rumbly? Light and teasing? Stretching? Pressure? Knowing the type of sensation you’re chasing will guide your choice more than the toy’s appearance.

Prioritize Body-Safe Materials

Look for toys made from:

• Medical-grade silicone

• ABS plastic

• Borosilicate glass

• Stainless steel

Avoid anything made of jelly rubber or porous materials that can trap bacteria.

Check Compatibility with Lube

• Water-based lubes are safe for all toys

• Silicone lubes are long-lasting but can damage silicone toys

• Oil-based lubes are not condom-safe or toy-friendly

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FAQs

Q: Is it legal to buy sex toys in New Zealand? Yes! In New Zealand, it's 100% legal for adults to buy, have and use sex toys.

Q: Will the packaging reveal what I ordered? No. Totally Adult is shipped in a plain, unmarked package. The package is not transparent without any logos, labels or obscene pictures visible.

Q: Are sex toys safe for internal use? Yes—provided they’re body-safe and cleaned thoroughly after each use. Always use with appropriate lubrication.

Q: How do I clean my toy? Wash with warm water and mild soap or toy cleaner. Do not boil unless your toy is non-vibrating and made of stainless steel, silicone, or glass. Always dry completely before storing.

Q: I’m a beginner—what’s the best toy for me? If you're into it, begin with a basic bullet vibrator, little plug, or soft stroker depending on your anatomy and angle of interest. Read reviews and listen to your body.

Q: Can I return a toy if I change my mind? Because of health and hygiene regulations, adult toys are in most cases not returnable, unless they’re faulty. Be sure to look at the return policy before you buy.

Conclusion: You Deserve to Explore

Discovering your sexuality feels personal, liberating, and just so human. Whether you’re pursuing a fantasy, reigniting a relationship, or just exploring what makes your body feel good, the right toys can do wonders.

Totally Adult is all about embracing what’s sexy, and stocking our online sex shop with all the things you crave: NZ’s best selection for whatever turns you on.

So shop around — explore and see what turns you on.