Mental Health: What It Really Means and Why It’s So Easy to Lose Ours

Robert KarienyeRobert Karienye
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There’s this moment that hits — sometimes at 3 AM, sometimes in the middle of a group chat, sometimes when you're staring at a screen full of unread messages — where you realize you're not okay, but you're not entirely broken either.

You’re just… tired.

Tired of pretending.
Tired of pushing.
Tired of being “on” all the time.

That’s the quiet weight of struggling with your mental health.

What mental health actually is

Mental health isn’t just a buzzword. It’s not just depression, anxiety, or burnout — even though those are part of it. It’s the invisible thread that runs through everything: your thoughts, your energy, your ability to show up for yourself and others.

It’s:

  • how you talk to yourself when no one’s listening

  • how safe you feel being vulnerable

  • whether you can sit in silence without spiraling

  • how much of your energy is spent just holding it together

You can look fine on the outside and still feel like you're collapsing inside. And that's where it gets dangerous — because most of us have learned to mask pain like it's a skillset.

Why it’s so easy to lose your mental health

We lose it slowly — not all at once.
It slips through the cracks:

  • When we say “I’m fine” out of habit

  • When we keep performing instead of pausing

  • When rest feels like failure

  • When crying feels weak

  • When we don’t even remember what peace feels like anymore

And the scariest part? You can be surrounded by people and still feel completely alone in it.

It’s not your fault

The world we’re in constantly overstimulates and under-supports us.
We’re praised for being “productive,” not for being balanced.
We’re connected 24/7, but how often are we truly seen?

So if you’re struggling — not sleeping, not eating right, emotionally flatlining, numbing out with endless scrolling — that doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’ve been human in a system that doesn’t make space for healing.

So… what do we do?

Start by being honest with yourself.

Forget the “fix it fast” mindset. There’s no shortcut here. But there is a path — and it starts with real honesty.

Ask yourself:

  • When was the last time I felt joy that wasn’t performative?

  • What am I carrying that no one sees?

  • What would it look like if I gave myself permission to feel — without judgment?

Then take tiny steps:

  • Talk to someone you trust (even if it's uncomfortable)

  • Go for a walk without your phone

  • Write one thing you’re proud of today — even if it’s just surviving

  • Don’t try to heal everything at once. Just try to be 2% more honest today than yesterday

You are not your trauma

You’re not your bad days.
You’re not your numbness.
You’re not a burden.
You are someone who is still here — still trying — even if the world hasn’t made it easy to care for your soul.

That matters. You matter.

Mental health isn’t about achieving happiness. It’s about reclaiming your humanity — piece by piece, breath by breath.

And if no one has said it today:
You’re not alone in this.
You’re not weak for needing help.
You’re allowed to take your healing seriously — even when the world doesn’t.


This is your reminder: it’s okay to not be okay. And it’s brave as hell to keep going anyway.
MindCure is here for that journey — one messy, beautiful step at a time. 💚.

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Robert Karienye
Robert Karienye

Hi. I’m Karienye. I write code and forget why I started writing it five minutes later. Some say I’m a developer. Others say I’m just a sleep-deprived human trying to make JavaScript behave. Both are correct. I once fixed a bug by sacrificing a cup of coffee to the coding gods, and honestly? It worked. Here’s what you need to know: I write clean code, then mess it up trying to “optimize” it, I talk to rubber ducks like they’re my therapists 🐥, Git is my diary and every commit is a cry for help, Stack Overflow knows me better than my own family,I once named a variable “banana” and it somehow fixed the issue?? 🍌💻 When I’m not debugging the universe, I’m probably Eating snacks at 3am like a true developer, Arguing with ChatGPT about why my code should work, Googling “how to center a div” for the 497th time, Telling my laptop “please” like it owes me something 🙃 If you’re looking for sanity, you won’t find it here. But if you’re looking for code, chaos, and vibes — welcome to the party. 🎉👾